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Dry spell

 

 

Dear Nikki,

My wife and I had a child about three months ago. Though our daughter is a blessing and the most amazing thing in our lives, we no longer have a sex life. If we are not up with the baby we are exhausted. My wife's sex drive is nonexistent.

How do I get back the spice in our bedroom?

From

A man with needs in Nevada

 

Dear Mr. Needs-

A baby changes your relationship in all sense of the meaning. There is plenty of joy that comes from your new addition but the dynamics of your marriage also changes.

It is important to be on baby duty equally. Maybe allow her to stay in bed during the 2 am shift. Be patient as along with your baby girl, your wife is also dealing with drastic changes to her body and emotions. She may not feel very attractive and doesn't have much time for herself anymore.

When and only when she is ready, have a trusted family member or friend stay with your child and take her away for the night. Though she may still worry about your daughter, she will appreciate the alone time and intimacy. In time your sexual relationship will adapt and though it may not be as spontaneous it will definitely be spicy.

Xoxo

Nikki

 

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The bottom line

Dear Nikki-

My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and have had sex in many different positions and places in that time. He has always had this desire to have anal sex but I am scared to try it. I really want to please him! Any advice?

Sincerely,

Scared in Santa Barbara, CA

Hi Scared-

Thanks for writing in! I hope I can help you to decide on what to do.

First of all, you have to ask yourself if you are interested in trying anal sex. Truth is if you are not into it, you will likely not enjoy it and if he cares about you he will respect your feelings on the issue.

However, if you are curious and think it may be something worth trying, there are definitely tips to help. I am assuming he has never had anal sex before either? It is best to take it slow; have him use his fingers or small anal toys first to help you relax to the idea. You should absolutely use lubrication and can even find some with a numbing agent to make it easier. Once you feel that you are ready to move from the toys to the real thing, have him insert slowly and only a little bit at a time. Once he has rhythmically moved in and out slow and steady, you can tell him when you are ready for him to pick up the pace. Ultimately, it is about trust and you should be able to tell him what you want, need and dislike!

Happy experimenting! As always be safe and use protection! Visit my site for toys, lubes and protection www.nkonline.biz

XOXO,

Nikki



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