Dear Nikki-
My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and have had sex in many different positions and places in that time. He has always had this desire to have anal sex but I am scared to try it. I really want to please him! Any advice?
Sincerely,
Scared in Santa Barbara, CA
Hi Scared-
Thanks for writing in! I hope I can help you to decide on what to do.
First of all, you have to ask yourself if you are interested in trying anal sex. Truth is if you are not into it, you will likely not enjoy it and if he cares about you he will respect your feelings on the issue.
However, if you are curious and think it may be something worth trying, there are definitely tips to help. I am assuming he has never had anal sex before either? It is best to take it slow; have him use his fingers or small anal toys first to help you relax to the idea. You should absolutely use lubrication and can even find some with a numbing agent to make it easier. Once you feel that you are ready to move from the toys to the real thing, have him insert slowly and only a little bit at a time. Once he has rhythmically moved in and out slow and steady, you can tell him when you are ready for him to pick up the pace. Ultimately, it is about trust and you should be able to tell him what you want, need and dislike!
Happy experimenting! As always be safe and use protection! Visit my site for toys, lubes and protection www.nkonline.biz
XOXO,
Nikki
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