10 Reasons Your Not Having Sex

Are you in a sexual slump? Here are 10 good reasons you are not getting any action:

1. Your bedroom isn't sexy anymore: This is hard to face but the bedroom is meant for sex and sleep! If you want to give sex a higher priority, take technology out of the bedroom. No cellphones, laptops, tablets or television.

2. Your meds are stealing your sex drive: It figures...you get on contraception to prevent pregnancy and lose your sex drive! Talk to your doctor about your prescriptions and side effects. You may have alternatives or lower dose options.

3. Your schedule: You are a parent, hold a job, have chores and errands - spontaneous sex is out of the question and finding time is difficult. Get a lock on your bedroom door and set time limits on technology time. Switch things up with a soothing and sensual bath.

4. Body image: We are all rather hard on ourselves and this time of year is the worst! Know that he thinks your sexy even though you might not. Ask him what he likes about your body - it might just boost your confidence.

5. You are going through perimenopause: Hormonal shifts cause you to produce less estrogen and in turn less lubrication down below. Talk to your doctor about the pros and cons of hormone replacement and what your options are.

6. He's not feeling it: Maybe you are hot and heavy but he is fizzled out. He may be going through some emotional struggles or may want a more adventurous sex life. Talk it out in a blame-free nature. If you confront or accuse, it may never get better.

7. You're depressed: Women tend to isolate themselves when they are down and desire hits bottom. If you are on medication to treat your depression and notice your sex drive was affected by the medication, your doctor may have you try something else. If you are depressed and untreated anti-depressants can help you.

8. Your main is on the blue pill: Men use Viagra for erectile dysfunction but there is a time restraint on its effect while sometimes women need more time to become aroused. Discuss your needs and desires. See if you can find a good solution together.

9. You like your toys: Being someone who sells these wonderful gadgets, I can see you enjoying a vibrator more than the real thing. Men can not twist and vibrate in quite the same way. In order to save your relationship try new positions that may satisfy your needs or consider using the vibrator in your lovemaking.

10. You are sick and tired: Again, being a person with fibromyalgia, I can certainly understand. Auto-immune diseases are a common issue among women. They cause fatigue, pain, low sex-drive, depression. Take intercourse out of the equation and concentrate on intimacy and sensual pleasure.