How to prevent your kids from having kids

As you know I am an advocate of open discussions with your children regarding sex and safety. I have a confession to make, I was a teenage mother, therefore I know how difficult it can be. And as I always say...that is the lesser of the consequences of unprotected sex.

So here are some things to ask yourself and discuss with your child, in hopes to prevent pregnancy:

Why is your child having sex? Is it for a new experience? To grow up faster? Peer-pressure? As difficult as this topic may be for you to talk about or your child to hear: discuss masturbation or other ways than pregnancy to feel the adventure.

Think about and tell your children what your family values are. Do you want them to attend college? Will a child burden your entire family financially?

Determine whether your home dynamic is similar to the communities expected normal behavior? Is it socially acceptable for teens to have sex if they have access to protection and are practicing safely? Your children will listen to you more if your views are what is socially acceptable by the community around you. Now I am not saying you have to agree with the worlds logic but don't expect that because you say no sex, that your child will listen.

The last one is probably the hardest! Be honest about what you were doing at their age. If you were having sex, discuss your experience - good and bad. Realize that if you were doing it then it is likely that they are too.

Remember that you cannot control your teens sex life, nor should you but if you are not open with your child then they will not feel comfortable coming to you with questions!